Explore

There are so many ways to explore with me! You can start with this list of articles, courses, and free videos that are available online. I also wrote the book Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered. It’s packed full of smart answers to common questions. I also blog about my adventures in the sex toy industry on my blog SexToyRadio.com. Enjoy!

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Sex Education

• What is a sex educator?
• The Practice of Being Trauma-Informed (online course)
• Pleasure Anatomy Charts (PDF teaching tools)

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Pleasure Anatomy

• Can I increase the sensitivity of my clitoris?
• What are the major sexual hot spots on a female body?
• A Guide to Playing With an Uncircumcised Penis
• What can I do to help my partner maintain his erection?

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Orgasms

• The Art of the Orgasm: Pleasure Toys & Anatomy (video)
• How can I orgasm from penetration alone?
• Are there different types of female orgasm?
• Sometimes when I’m about to orgasm I feel like I really have to pee. I’m worried that if I don’t stop, I’ll wet the bed!
• Can all women achieve multiple orgasms?
• Do men have control over when they orgasm and ejaculate?
• How quickly can a guy get another erection after ejaculating?

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Sex Toys

• Luxury Sex Toys: What Makes Them Worth It?
• The sex toy I bought doesn’t work for my body. What should I do?
• What are Ben Wa balls?
• What household items make good sex toys?
• Will sex toys desensitize my clit and ruin me for partner play?
• I’ve heard that some sex toy materials are dangerous. Which sex toy materials are good and which are not so good?
• Are sex toys a new thing or have people been using them for a long time?

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Survivors

• Sex After Sexual Assault: Finding Joy After Trauma

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Sex & Unwanted Pain

• Do most people experience pain during intercourse? Isn’t it just inherently painful?
• Sometimes I get a stabbing sensation during penetrative sex with my partner. Is something wrong?

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G Spots & Squirting

• G Spots & Squirting (video)
• What’s the best way to make a woman squirt?

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Oral Sex

• How can I last longer when giving oral sex to a man?
• Why do guys want a lover to swallow?

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Hands as Sex Tools

• Stroke That: How to Rub a Vulva the Right Way
• Help! I need some foolproof hand job tips!

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Anal Sex

• Don’t Have Anal Sex If…
• What do you need to have good anal sex?
• What kind of lubricant should I use for anal sex?
• How can I keep anal sex from getting messy?
• Why is anal sex still taboo?
• How exactly does one massage a guy’s prostate?

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Kink

• I know BDSM is all the rage, but the idea of tying someone up and spanking them totally freaks me out! Am I abnormal, or what?
• What’s the difference between a wood, leather or silicone spanking paddle?