Don't let the name fool you - Ducky DooLittle is no Sesame Street character. She's cute, friendly and profoundly educational, though her lessons are brought to you by the number 69 and the letter O. Never had an orgasm? Want to have more orgasms? Then Ducky's your girl.

Ducky is a sexpert hailing from Minnesota, and boy can she teach you a thing or two (million) about sex. Her "Get Wet" workshop focuses on all aspects of the female orgasm, including G-spotting, female ejaculation and muscle control. After attending her popular workshop "Loving You," which focuses on female sexual self esteem, "Everyone walks away floating on a cloud, myself included," says Ducky. "It's like, 'Okay, I'm normal! Sex is good for you! And I'm okay with my desires.'" So if you're worried about whether you're normal or not, do not fret; you're normal, according to Ducky.

Miss DooLittle also teaches burlesque as well as an anal sex workshop that explains "what's normal, how to do it, how to feel good and how to get over bad experiences." And rest assured, Ducky works with all genders and sexual orientations to make her classes as inclusive as possible.

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DUCK, DUCK, GOOSE
J: Is Ducky your real name?
DD: Ducky is my nickname. I use it professionally because it makes it so people don't take me too seriously. I want people to have fun and walk away feeling good. I'm also not a thin woman. I'm not a perfect woman and I don't ever want to be. I'm real; I'm not threatening, I'm kind of little. I smile a lot. Despite it all I have been considered to be a sexy person, so I certainly have a big following of women that are inspired by that, which is nice.

PEEPSHOWS AND PRINTING PRESSES
A: How did you get into the sex industry? How did it all start?
DD: Well, I didn't do it on purpose. Which is why I believe I do so well, because I am happy to be here and in it for the right reasons. There are many things I could do to make a living, but I am here because teaching sex makes me happy. I began working in the sex industry when I was 18 as a peepshow girl and a stripper. It was part of my job to sit and talk to men all day about their sex fantasies. It was fascinating to me - a total scientific experiment. I don't know where else you would get that kind of information except through the peepshow glass. It's anonymous, like a confessional booth. So that was the start of my curiosity. I worked the peepshows because I was young and an orphan. I did not have any resources. I needed to pay my rent. Period. But working that job turned on a part of my brain, and I really became fascinated with sexuality. After working that job for a while I was in a better situation and I was able to go back to working on printing machines. That was my job before I started the peepshows, so once a good job opened up I left 42nd Street. I went back to that because I found a less expensive apartment, and then started quietly writing erotica because this part of my brain was now lit. And for some time I didn't share my erotica with anyone, then I started sharing it with friends and eventually got up the nerve to publish some of it. Not long after that I was asked to do readings. And that was how it all started - my public performances mixed with my findings about sex.

SEXUAL ORGAN PLAYING
J: I can't believe there are women who don't know how to masturbate.
DD: Guys have the advantage of having most of their sexual organs on the exterior part of their bodies, so it's really obvious. But for women, no one teaches us where our clitoris is and what our muscles do, how everything interacts, the fact that we have as much erectile tissue in our bodies as men have in theirs. It's amazing and rather sad, but I'll go do workshops at prestigious universities and have young women ask where her clitoris is.
J: It seems like it'd be hard to miss.
DD: It doesn't come naturally for some women. And then other women simply don't enjoy masturbation. They feel like it's wrong. Think of it like this: you are a writer. You like to write. Other people might sit down to write and find that job to be totally isolating and be unable to enjoy doing it. Everything in life is relative. I have just learned to accept each person as an individual and recognize that everything, including a person's sexuality, is relative.
A: And I'm sure these are sensitive subjects for some people. You're in a university setting, you know?
DD: Well that's why I take the questions anonymously. They write it down on an index card, that way all of the questions are anonymous, so people feel safe to ask me anything. It's cool because not everyone has friends they can talk to about these things. Then you add cultural influences that tell us our bodies are dirty. Or religious ideals. It can be very complex.
J: How do you show them where their clit is? Do you have diagrams?
DD: I have diagrams. And most people do not realize how big the clit really is! It's totally and deeply connected to all of our pleasure anatomy.
J: It's different sizes, right? Does it vary as much as penis size?
DD: Well the glans itself can sometimes be as long as an inch or not show at all, but then it has these two legs that are full of nerves and blood vessels that weave through your body. I mean, it's this amazing thing and people are always saying, "Oh it's like a little man in a boat." "It's a pearl." No! It's not just a little ball, it's not a separate thing, it's completely connected.

DIRTY AND NOT-SO-DIRTY OLD MEN
A: Is there a certain age group that you usually see?
DD: They're all over the place.
J: How old is the oldest, 60?
DD: Usually 80 to 18. I mean I don't teach anybody under 18. It's not my place to teach someone else's children, Yeah, the oldest person that I actually got their age was 80. I usually don't ask.
J: That's like my great-grandmother.
DD: It's pretty amazing. And old men! Old men come! Which is kind of cool. I don't know about you, but as a young woman, I used to have all these connotations about old men. I was like, "What does he want? What's he doing here?" It's really nice to get my preconceived notions blown out of the water. There are really nice older gentlemen who come to the workshops because they want to please their lover. I mean, those are nice guys!
J: But it's so funny to think about where they came from, and how they grew up, and what their parents taught them 80 years ago.
DD: They used to think that women didn't have orgasms. And up until the '70s, sexual scientists were convinced that women didn't have sex fantasies. It wasn't until Nancy Friday's My Secret Garden came out. That book was very revolutionary in that women spoke explicitly about their sex fantasies for the first time. Suddenly everyone had to admit that yes, women do have sex fantasies. That was just the 1970's! That's not that long ago!
J: And guys still think that women don't like porn…
DD: Well, these are the same guys that get a majority of their sex information from porn. Which is so off-kilter. They see something in a film, look to their girlfriend and ask, "Well, why can't you do that?" Porn sex is not real sex. It's inspiring, fun to watch but usually not very realistic.
A: And I don't get paid to do it.
J: They're always screaming in ecstasy when nothing's happening,
DD: They're actors!
A: I love it when they scream and there's nothing happening!
[laughter]
DD: I think porn is great though. I mean, I really like it. It can be very inspiring as long as you don't compare yourself to it and think that's the way you should screw, look, or act sexually.

BANANAS, BLOWJOBS AND BODY IMAGE
J: So, how do you teach the blowjob workshops? Do you use a banana?
DD: Sometime I bring bananas! It depends upon how hands-on the participants are. I never want to embarrass anyone. But if the participants are into it then I bring out the bananas! Because they're natural and they're funny. Plus I think it's great when a person can sit and laugh. It makes sitting through a sex workshop so much more fun. I like it that way too! I like giggling. One of the number one tips I give in the blowjob workshop, which I think is so basic but important, flash 'em a little eye contact.
J: I don't like it when they look at me.
DD: But you know something, though? If you ever look at any kind of porn scene where there is a blowjob scene, you always get to look into her eyes. In that instance what you see is that she is not embarrassed of what she is doing. And also because your head is down here and your lover's head is up there - looking at him connects the two of you into the act together. While giving head it's easy to disappear into your own head (if you are the giver or the receiver). You're thinking things like, "I need to do the laundry… I only have two bucks left on my metro card…" But if you look up, get connected with your lover, it reminds you that you are sharing the experience. And you don't have to stare at them, just a little glimpse of "I'm still here. I'm with you," can be really sexy. These things can be harder than they sound. It can be hard for me and I teach the workshop! But when I do it, I see instant results in how I feel and how my partner feels. Everything comes together.
J: "Comes together."
[Laughter]
DD: I know. The accidental puns are especially awful when you teach sex.
A: I bet when you teach a private class it's a lot of fun. Like a sleepover. Having all the girls, and they're giggling.
J: It's all we ever talk about anyway.
[Laughter]
A: I bet body image is a major theme that comes up over and over again. What's your advice for women who hate some aspect of their bodies?
DD: To forgive themselves. If it's something you can change, then take action. If it's something you can't change, then you have to forgive yourself. If it's something like stretch marks - a lot of people have stretch marks, and it really bothers them. Even the thinnest women. It's your skin growing and accommodating the natural changes in your body. There's nothing you can do about that. Take a deep breath and forgive yourself. Everybody's wearing low riding jeans, and you see the thinnest woman bend over to pick up whatever she has dropped, and you'll see she's got stretch marks around her hips. They're normal! And body image comes up with almost every workshop. It brings me a lot of happiness to try to conquer some of those issues, to spread the message of "Forgive yourself, love yourself, take good care of yourself," especially in regard to sexuality.

FURRIES, PLUSHIES AND FETISHES
J: It seems like anything you can think of is sexually attractive to someone. And there's a website for it.
A: And probably a convention!
[Laughter]
A: Isn't there a name for people who are attracted to people in costumes?
DD: You are probably thinking of Furries. Not to be confused with Plushies. They are two very different fetish classifications. Furries are into animal costumes and Plushies are into stuffed animals. Like a stuffed raccoon that they really love. They will buy five or six of the exact same raccoon. They will make love to them and have a relationship with them. It's anti-social behavior, an inability to form relationships with other people, so they form relationships with these stuffed animals. To me, it seems kind of lonely, but they seem very happy in their fetish. They're not hurting anyone.
J: I just wonder what would have to happen to make me sexually attracted to stuffed animals?
DD: I know of a number of people who used to masturbate by rubbing on their stuffed animals when they were kids. You know, like humping little things. Guys do that as well. They hump their pillows. They hump stuff.
A: I just picture all these girls I knew that had, like, mountains of stuffed animals - those sluts!
[Laughter]
A: Tell me about the Furries, the people attracted to people in costume.
DD: Sometimes they will get their rush out of wearing the costume, and/or they could be attracted to other people in costume. I think it has to do with the anonymity of it because usually there's like full suits with facemasks. Oh and there's a whole sports mascot sort of groupie thing that goes on as well. Rumor has it sports mascots get laid like crazy because people are so attracted to them. Women are all over them. It's hilarious but a little incomprehensible.

THE HOLY GRAIL
J: What parts of a woman's body do you think are most neglected by men?
DD: The clitoris. It's like the Holy Grail. Don't get me wrong; there are a lot of erogenous zones on a woman's body. But it seems that one really basic, obvious place that guys should go to is the clitoris and many of them don't. I keep reminding them, "It's the Holy Grail. It's the answer to all your questions. It's right here in front of you." They have the misconception that women should come from penetration alone and the majority of women don't. Penetration feels great, but it will not take them over the top. Use your fingers. Rub your little beer belly up against that spot. Use a sex toy. And there are some great vibrating cock rings on the market now! He slips it onto his cock and it brings penetrative sex and clit stimulation together. Works like a charm!
J: I've been reading up, and I read that you can train yourself to come from penetration even if you normally don't.
DD: That is a possibility for lots of women. It's all about muscle strength and control. It can take time and can be a frustrating process for some women. (Although well worth it!) I teach those techniques in my workshops. But the truth of the matter is that the clit is so easy, simple and fun. It should be looked at as a major part of our orgasmic experience. It's fun for everybody!
A: So, say you're with your new guy, your new boyfriend that you've been with for two months, and you want to introduce him to this new sex toy, how would you do that?
J: Without offending him…
DD: I think the best way is to take him out on a date and make part of it a shopping spree at a store like Toys in Babeland. You could maybe pick up a gift certificate and give it to him as a gift so you have an excuse to bring him there. It's fun that way! If you are lucky enough to have one of these feminist boutique style sex toy shops in your town you'll find you can walk right in there, and there is one of every toy sitting out with batteries in them. You can actually pick up the toys and look at them. There are no packages out with, like, bad '80s hairdos or metallic bikini babes. These shops are classy and even romantic.

BLINDFOLDS AND VIBRATORS
DD: Wanting to explore your sexuality and things like sex toys in not a bad thing. It's a good thing! I had a boyfriend for many years - part of the reason I broke up with him was because he thought I was a freak. I wasn't asking him to do anything that outrageous, just asking him to use a blindfold. He could not open his mind up to trying something new or different. And immediately after I broke up with him I was like, 'That is so wrong' and went off exploring on my own. That was many years ago and he's still sorry he lost me.
[Laughter]
J: If you use a vibrator a lot, can you become conditioned to it and have trouble orgasming without it?
DD: That is such a common question. People ask me that all the time. You can fall into a rut with a vibrator. But it's easy enough to get out of that rut. The best thing to do is switch it up. And not be lazy and just use your vibrator because you know it's fast and easy. Use your vibe sometimes, use your hands sometimes. Keep your nerves in tune with different sensations. But you will never be addicted to your vibrator. A vibrator will never ruin you. It can just make you lazy. And a vibrator will never replace your lover. It's important that you make that very clear to them.

SEXPERT AND MATCHMAKER?
DD: The guys that come to the workshops - first of all, they're amazing. If you are ever looking for a good boyfriend, come to a sex workshop because if they are single and they are there and they are there to learn how to please women, they're nice guys!
A: Wow, I never thought about that.
DD: I'm always like, "Why isn't someone picking these guys up? Why in all the world are they here alone?" But generally, I think there are a lot of guys out there who are smarter than women think they are, and a lot of women out there who are faking their orgasms or not being totally up-front and honest about what they want and how they feel sexually. Guys know this. And they come to the workshop and they're like, "How do I know if she's having an orgasm? How do I know how to get her there?" They ask me lots of questions that they should be asking their lover. And their lover needs to be really honest about. It's really very amazing and interesting. These are good guys, and they're smart, and they want to please. Obviously the women that they have been with are not working with them, which is kind of heartbreaking to me. I think the message to us women is to be honest. If you are not having an orgasm, that's okay. I think being honest with sex is so important. And this was also the number one message I came away with when I worked the peepshows. I walked away from that job thinking, "I wish these guys would go to their lover and ask these things. Be honest. Wouldn't that be a wonderful world?" That was 15 years ago. The world has changed a lot. And I am still working towards that same mission. As a sex educator, I'm like, "Let's just be honest."