

Sex with the Lights On:
200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered
You get all of this plus lots of how-to sidebars, true tales from real people like you and some of Ducky's personal stories of how she learned the answers to all of these questions!
Contents
Introduction
1. Anatomy
2. Pussy: Top to Bottom
Q: Where is the clitoris?
Q: What is the average length of the clitoris?
Q: What is a hymen?
Q: What is the perineum and where is it located?
3. Vagina: Lets Go Deeper
Q: I have a beautiful vagina but a short vaginal canal. How do I let a potential lover know before we have sex?
Q: Why is it that sometimes during sex with my guy will hit the back of my vagina and I get a sharp pain?
4. G-spot: Truth or Myth?
Q: What is my G-spot and where is it?
Q: Does everyone have a G-spot?
Q: How do you find your G-spot?
Q: What is the difference between a clitoris and a G-spot?
Q: Is the G-spot in the same place for all women?
Q: You need to turn on to be able to feel the G-spot?
Q: How do you know if you have found the G-spot?
Q: I think I found my G-spot but it was only ok (not mind blowing) was that really my G-spot?
Q: What if you cannot find your G-spot?
Q: When being aroused with my G-spot why do I feel like I have to pee?
5. Female Ejaculation: More Wet
Q: Can all women ejaculate?
Q: What is female ejaculate composed of?
Q: Why do some women squirt during orgasm and others do not?
Q: How do the women in adult films squirt so much liquid?
Q: How can I learn to ejaculate?
Q: I hate getting the bed wet. Is there any way I can stop myself from ejaculating?
6. Female Pelvic Muscles: Bigger, Better Orgasms!
Q: What are Kegels?
Q: I have heard that once a woman has a baby she is loose down there?
Q: If these muscles are so wonderful then why have I never heard of them?
Q: How can a woman build strength in her pelvic muscles?
7. Chests, Breast & Nipples
Q: I hear about creams that can increase the size of breasts, do these really work?
Q: My man loves boobs. Sometimes a little too much. How can I get him to be gentler?
Q: I know my girlfriend likes to have her breasts touch but why is it that sometimes she will shy away from me?
Q: Are inverted nipples sensitive to touch?
Q: Do guys like to have their nipples licked and sucked?
8. Penis: Tip to Base
Q: I heard circumcised guys are cleaner than uncircumcised guy?
Q: Which part of the penis is most sensitive?
Q: How long is the average penis hard and soft?
Q: Does size matter?
Q: How do you make sex with a small penis feel good for a woman?
Q: Can a penis be too long for a vagina?
Q: Do you have any tips if your partner is very large?
Q: Is a curved penis better than a straight one?
9. Balls, Perineum & Male Pelvic Muscles: Pleasure Beyond His Penis
Q: Does it feel good when you squeeze a guys balls?
Q: What exactly is “blue balls” and do men really get this?
Q: What is the perineum and where is it located?
Q: Why do I get little response from my guy when I touch his perineum?
Q: Is the perineum as pleasurable of a spot on a woman as it is on a man?
Q: Where is the prostate located?
Q: Where is a guy’s G-spot?
10. Butt: The Equal Opportunity Orifice
Q: How clean is the average person’s butt hole?
Q: How dangerous is it to put your mouth on someone’s anus?
Q: Why do people like anal sex?
Q: Can women orgasm from anal sex?
Q: How much anal stimulation do men and/or women like?
Q: If we are having anal sex will he actually be touching poop inside my body?
Q: Is there any way to sort of rinse out my butt before anal sex?
Q: Are you not supposed to mix vaginal and anal body fluids?
11. Body Image: The Skin You’re In
Q: How can I project sexiness if I am not happy with my body?
Q: I'm a handsome guy that just happens to be handicapped and in a wheelchair. I've tried using the online dating stuff and the girls seem interested until they find out I'm in a wheelchair then they stop talking. Any advice on how I could get and keep them interested?
Q: How can I get rid of stretch marks?
Q: How do I get over my hang-ups about my big thighs?
Q: What are some of the ways you were able to overcome feeling shame?
Q: I think my pussy smells bad. What should a woman’s body smell like?
Q: Do you recommend shaving or waxing?
Q: How can I get my girlfriend to shave or wax?
12. Sexual Health: Self Care & Medical Care
Q: How many times a week should a couple have sex in a normal, healthy sex life?
Q: How can I boost my sex drive?
Q: Anti-depressants killed my sex drive. What can I do?
Q: Does your sex drive change during your period?
Q: Do those aphrodisiac creams made for women really work?
Q: How can you have an orgasm when you are drunk?
Q: Why do I need to be drunk in order to have sex?
Q: What is the best condom for both men and women’s pleasure?
Q: I know I'm always supposed to use condoms but I think they're giving me an infection. Am I crazy?
Q: How safe are condoms for preventing HIV infection?
Q: What are the statistics on lesbian transmissions of HIV?
Q: What is a dental dam?
Q: When can a couple be certain about practicing unprotected sex?
Q: I have a nail biting and cuticle biting habit. Can I get sick or get an infection if I put my fingers inside my lover?
Q: Why do some women get bladder infections after sex?
13. Her Orgasms: The Art & Science
Q: What exactly is a female orgasm?
Q: How do you know if you are having an orgasm?
Q: Are there different types of female orgasms?
Q: Is it difficult or impossible for some women to have an orgasm?
Q: How can I achieve an orgasm?
Q: How can I guarantee an orgasm during sex?
Q: How can you tell if a woman is faking an orgasm?
Q: How normal is it for a woman to need to be touched on her clit in order to orgasm?
Q: Is a clitoral orgasm really different from a vaginal orgasm?
Q: What is the best way to stimulate the G-spot?
Q: When you find your G-spot are you sure?
Q: How do I have a G-spot orgasm?
14. His Orgasm: The Art & Science
Q: What techniques do you recommend to stimulate a man to orgasm?
Q: What is the best way to handle a guy who is having a difficult time getting it up?
Q: What can you do to keep a guy’s erection while using condom?
Q: How can I get him hard more than once in a night?
Q: What does it mean if your male partner takes forever to orgasm?
Q: How much fluid is to be expected from ejaculation exactly?
15. Foreplay: A New Definition
Q: Why don’t the men I encountered understand that foreplay is a very important part of a sexual encounter?
Q: How do you get someone to kiss you with out slobbering all over you? How do you get them to kiss more gently?
Q: Where do you start with foreplay?
16. Fingers, Hands & Hand Jobs: Melts in Your Hands
Q: I feel like I have become so used to orgasming with my boyfriends fingers on my clit that I don’t think I can come any other way. Any suggestions?
Q: When you are giving a hand job, why does the guy get so sensitive after they orgasm?
Q: What is the best technique for a hand job?
Q: I have heard that twisting your hand during a hand job is a good technique, what do you think?
Q: Can you explain how I can use my hands on his balls?
Q: I have always avoided giving hand jobs on the theory that guys can do it to themselves better. Is that true?
17. Oral Sex: Melts in Your Mouth
Q: What tips can I give my lover in order to get good oral sex?
Q: How do I get my lover to enjoy going down on me?
Q: How do you keep pubic hair from getting in your mouth while performing oral sex?
Q: How can I orgasm while receiving oral sex?
Q: Does the person giving head feel pleasure when giving oral sex?
Q: Is it safe to go down on your girlfriend with a menthol cough drop in your mouth?
Q: When you go down on a woman, do most women enjoy penetration with a tongue?
Q: I really don't like the smell of vagina and I heard the taste isn't very good either. Is there any kind of advice you can give me to get over my hang-up with cunnilingus?
Q: Does a dental dam make oral sex less pleasurable for the receiver?
Q: Is oral sex safer than vaginal sex?
Q: How can I keeping my momentum going while giving oral sex?
Q: Is there a secret to making a guy come quickly when you are getting tired of giving a blowjob?
Q: Does a man prefer it if you go up and down with your tongue or around and around?
Q: What is the best way to deep-throat his penis or at least take as much as possible without gagging?
Q: If you orgasm by way of oral sex is it acceptable to cum inside your girlfriend’s mouth? Should you warn her?
Q: Should one spit or swallow during oral sex?
Q: Is there something a man can do to make his cum sweeter and less bitter?
Q: Does licking a man’s balls have any benefit?
18. Intercourse: The Ins & Outs
Q: How often do women orgasm during penetrative sex with their partner?
Q: What sexual position optimizes clitoral stimulation?
Q: What is their secret of women who orgasm from penetration alone?
Q: How can I learn to stay present and have an orgasm with a partner?
Q: What is the average time for sex?
Q: What is the most innovative new sexual position?
Q: What is the best sex position for a woman to achieve an orgasm?
Q: I prefer to be on top but it seems guys prefer other positions. Any suggestions for how to make both of us happy?
Q: What is a man’s favorite sexual position?
Q: I like to have sex 'doggy style' more often than I do at the moment because my wife complains that it is painful. Is that common?
Q: Every time we have sex in the doggie style we have all this air build up and my pussy makes funny sounds. How can we do this position with out that happening?
Q: Sometime during sex my partner cannot stay inside me. He slips out. How can I help?
Q: What is the best way to do double penetration?
Q: What happens after I have an orgasm and it gets dry but the guy is not ready to cum and needs to keep going?
Q: How can you have sex in the water with out getting water up your vagina and losing lubrication?
Q: Is it safe for a guy to spit on himself to lube up before intercourse? Will the germs in his saliva cause a problem in the vagina?
Q: If your vagina burns after sex (even after peeing) what can help?
19. Butt Sex: Bottoms Up
Q: My best friend loves receiving anal sex and says it feels good. I am afraid it would hurt. Does anal sex actually feel good?
Q: Do you have any tips for a person who is having anal sex for the first time?
Q: Do women actually orgasm from anal sex?
Q: What are some ways to relax before anal sex?
Q: What is the difference between an anal orgasm and a clitoral or vaginal orgasm?
Q: Can anal sex feel as good for women as it does for men?
Q: Is it safe for pregnant women to have anal sex?
Q: Why are guys so obsessed with anal sex?
Q: Why do guys love having a finger up their butt?
Q: Why are some guys so afraid of receiving anal sex?
Q: If a guy likes to have a finger in his butt should I be worried that he is gay?
Q: How can I convince my guy to let me play with his anus without freaking him out?
Q: How can I convince my partner to have anal sex with her?
Q: How can I have anal sex without pain?
Q: I had anal sex while drunk once but without being drunk I am terrified of doing it. How can I get over this fear?
Q: I have had anal sex only once and it was very painful and I totally freaked. We were having vaginal sex and supposedly he slipped and penetrated my butt. Will it hurt like that every time?
Q: Is it unclean or dangerous to go from vaginal sex to anal sex?
Q: What diseases can you get from anal sex?
Q: What safety precautions could be taken when practicing anal sex?
Q: How can you assure cleanliness (no poop) during anal sex?
Q: I have heard a person will have trouble pooping after anal sex. Is this true?
Q: Does your butt get stretched out from having anal sex?
Q: What is the best position for anal sex?
20. Sex Toys
Q: What is a vibrator?
Q: Is it true that once you use a vibrator, sex just doesn’t do it for you? Will a vibrator ruin me for my boyfriend?
Q: If you are a virgin, will using a sex toy ruin sex for you?
Q: Are there any toys that can guarantee orgasm?
Q: Which type of textured sex toy provides the most pleasure?
Q: What is the best toy to travel with?
Q: What is The Rabbit?
Q: Why are some sex toys so unattractive?
Q: Why are some sex toys so expensive?
Q: Can a vibrator be too strong?
Q: Can your clitoris get sore from using a vibrator too much?
Q: I need a tremendous amount of pressure on my clitoral area to achieve orgasm, such as a hard piece of wood like a table edge. Are there any sex toys that might be able to work my clit like this?
Q: How do I approach my spouse about sex toys without making him feel insecure?
Q: Can I use my vibrator on my guy?
Q: I want to surprise my girlfriend with a sex toy. How do I pick one out for her?
Q: Do G-spot toys really work and, if so, how do I use one?
Q: Why can I only have a G-spot orgasm with my Nubby G?
Q: What is a dildo?
Q: Is bigger always better when it comes to a dildo?
Q: How do you choose a dildo?
Q: Are glass dildos safe?
Q: Why do people need lube?
Q: Is lubrication bad for you?
Q: Is there any way to keep my lube from drying out and getting sticky?
Q: What types of lube are safe to use with sex toys?
Q: Why would a woman want to wear a strap-on harness?
Q: How do I pick the right harness for my body?
Q: Why are harnesses such an elaborate contraption?
Q: Is it normal for guys to like it when girls use strap-ons on them? I love the idea of my girl riding my wagon if you know what I mean. I want to receive a good fucking by a woman with a strap on! Am I normal?
Q: What is a butt plug?
Q: How do you use anal beads?
Q: Can I use my vibrator in my butt?
Q: How far can a person penetrate anally?
Q: What is a cock ring?
Q: How does a cock ring work?
Q: Do cock rings really keep guys harder longer?
Q: Are cock rings pleasurable for both partners?
Q: What is a pump?
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